“You held my hand a little tighter as we walked into the centre. I gave you an encouraging smile, but you stayed close. Meanwhile, your sister had already rushed off to say hello to her friends. And I wondered, why is this so hard for you?”
If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone.
At Aussie Kindies, we know that every child is different. Some love meeting new people and exploring new places, while others take their time. If your child tends to cling to you, hesitate before joining in, or feel overwhelmed in unfamiliar settings, that’s completely normal, and nothing to worry about.
Whether your little one is a toddler just starting to make sense of the world or a preschooler getting ready for big school, these moments of nervousness are part of growing up. With the right support, understanding, and environment, they’ll find their feet, and their confidence.
1. There’s Nothing Wrong with Being Quiet or Cautious
We often hear the word “shy” used to describe kids who don’t jump into new situations right away. But sometimes that label doesn’t fit, and it can make children feel like something’s wrong with them when it isn’t.
As Susan Cain explains in her bestselling book Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking, introverted children simply interact with the world differently. They often prefer smaller groups, quieter spaces, and time to observe before getting involved. That doesn’t mean they’re not social, it just means they’re thoughtful.
Introverted children bring kindness, creativity, focus, and a deep understanding of the world around them. These aren’t traits to ‘fix’, they’re traits to celebrate.
2. Make the New Feel Familiar
Before your child starts at childcare or walks into a new environment, help them feel prepared. Talk about what will happen during the day. Visit the centre together. Walk past the playground. Meet their educators in advance. Familiarity builds comfort.
At Aussie Kindies, we always welcome orientation visits and flexible transitions. We’re here to help your child get to know us at their own pace.
You could say:
“First we’ll hang up your bag, then we’ll find the puzzle table. After that, it’s story time with Miss Charmaine.”
Even small details like this can help your child feel more confident and less overwhelmed.
3. Let Them Take Their Time
Some children jump right in. Others hang back and watch for a while, and that’s okay. Quiet observation is actually how many children learn. It doesn’t mean they’re not interested. It means they’re taking it all in.
If your child is slow to warm up, try:
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Sitting beside them and simply watching together
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Inviting them to play next to others, not necessarily with them
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Praising small steps like waving goodbye or sitting in the group for a few minutes
Every step forward, no matter how small, is a sign of growing confidence.
4. A Calm, Welcoming Environment Makes a Big Difference
At Aussie Kindies, our centres are designed to feel like a home away from home. We create warm, inviting spaces where children feel safe and supported from the moment they walk through the gate.
Our environments include:
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Cosy book corners and quiet zones
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Calm, predictable daily routines
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One-on-one support and flexible play options
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Small group activities that encourage friendships gently
Our Lifelong Learning Curriculum helps children build confidence, social skills, and emotional resilience through play, connection, and gentle guidance. We support every child in finding their voice, on their own timeline.
5. We’re Trained to See the Small Things That Matter
Some children make their presence known from the start. Others speak quietly, with glances, body language, and quiet bravery. At Aussie Kindies, our educators are trained to notice and support every child, even the ones who don't always speak up.
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Build strong, trusting relationships through consistency and care
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Notice when a child is ready (or not ready) to try something new
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Offer encouragement in calm, respectful ways
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Celebrate effort, not just achievement
Your child won’t be overlooked here. We see them. And we support them every step of the way.
6. Books Can Help Children (and Parents) Understand Big Feelings
Stories can be a gentle way to talk about feelings like worry, nervousness, and being unsure. They help children relate to others and realise they’re not alone.
Here are some favourites:
For Parents:
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Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking by Susan Cain
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The Highly Sensitive Child by Elaine N. Aron
For Children:
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Llama Llama Misses Mama by Anna Dewdney - perfect for separation anxiety
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Wemberly Worried by Kevin Henkes - about a little mouse who worries a lot
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The Invisible String by Patrice Karst - comforting and connection-focused
Gentle Encouragement, Every Step of the Way
If you’ve ever worried that your child is “too shy” or not keeping up socially, take a breath. They’re not behind. They’re just moving at their own pace.
At Aussie Kindies, we believe every child deserves to feel safe, understood, and supported, whether they’re full of chatter or quietly taking it all in. We create spaces where children feel comfortable being themselves, and where confidence is gently nurtured day by day.
💛 We’d love to show you around your local Aussie Kindies centre when the time feels right for you and your child. Find a centre near you and book a tour today.